My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Friday, May 5, 2023

Why We Must Treat Society as a Patient of Attachment and Childhood Trauma


It's Sunita here.

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are now commonly talked about in our society. But I feel that there is more progress to be made in how we approach these conversations.

We are often sick but don't always know that. 

We can't recognize our own impairment. 

We will, in my opinion have to treat society as the patient because I don't see a sweeping transformation happening to reduce the occurrence, severity and widespread nature of this trauma. 

Instead, I believe we will need incremental changes to our understanding of the origin of this trauma that will lead to systemic healing. 

Otherwise we will continue to have a dialog in which there is only a perpetrator-victim narrative. 

I am not at all suggesting that adults should not be accountable for causing harm to children (in most cases it's their own offspring who they harm.) But I believe we need to look beyond a generation, two or more to understand how someone came to be a 'perpetrator'.

As a culture we must become more capable of making the difficult choice of talking about trauma in a way that is honest, compassionate and transformational.

Then we must continue to find and devote the resources for the systemic changes we need to make to stop this blight of our times from taking us down as a society.

How does one narrate attachment trauma and ACEs from the inside out?

This what I think of in my waking and non waking hours.

Until next time,

Moving forwards,


Photo above- My first day of grade 1- Lethbridge, Alberta

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