My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

Hello,
It’s Sunita here.

I am a poet, an author, a wife, a mother, a sleep doctor, and a childhood trauma survivor. I healed when I understood that I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my mental health and my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

I now want to challenge and inspire you to move beyond your old stories so you can embrace possibility and fulfill your potential. So, if that is where you are in your life, I invite you to come visit with me when I write. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the bottom line is always Self Love Self Care First®.

Where did SLSCF® come from? I realized that I needed to find meaning in my suffering. I kept thinking, “What did I come out of this journey with? How can I convey what I now know other than what is in my poetry? What is the simplest, most fundamental, basic understanding of human nature that I discovered? And that is where Self Love Self Care First® comes from. I discovered that If we do not love ourselves, we do not care for ourselves. The pain of our lives and the messages we receive go deep to cause us at times to not pay attention to ourselves, and at times even hate ourselves. It is a difficult journey. And these feelings and beliefs come from the deepest parts of our unconscious. Self Love Self Care First® is a journey of learning we are all on. This is The Journey. To find compassion for ourselves. To find acceptance for ourselves. To find love for ourselves.

Find your light. Because we are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside. We must move inwards- not outward to look for the light. The light is inside you.

And when you find yours, you light up the world!
I hope you will join me in a journey of discovery, wonder, growth, and a celebration of our truth.

And love…

Because what else is there to talk about?

Be well, Do well, Live well,
Warmly,
Sunita



Thursday, May 27, 2021

How are you doing?

Hello,

It's Sunita here.

Our transformations require serious, demanding, and solitary work from us. It is lonely work most of the time. Painful, too. And, to top off the torturous nature of finding clarity and our truth, our efforts and hard work is not visible to others. Growth is not going to happen when we are 'out there'. It is all happening internally- invisible and unknown to others. And at times, frustratingly so to ourselves as well. The insights and peace that we are longing for do not appear instantly.

How are you doing? 

What does one say in response to that question when one is riddled with this internal process?

To be on your hero’s journey, and then emerge to start the artist’s journey means that you are on it alone. So one must befriend this solitary work early on. So, I suggest you just shrug and say whatever comes to your mind when someone asks you how you are. Because this journey is sacredly private, until you grasp your truth. 

Very few people will know what you are talking about if you choose to explain your turmoil to them. But the ones that do grasp what you are going through, and care enough for you to be a part of your messiness are worth their weight in gold. Hang on to them for your dear life because they are rare and special. They are your chosen tribe!

If you haven’t read Steven Pressfield’s book ‘The Artist’s Journey, I urge you to get it now. You will most likely read it over and over again, and find yourself in it, at different stages, and on many pages. Incredible insights on a process that is common to every creative persons journey!

Until next time,

Sunita


#Joseph Campbell #Steven Pressfield #the hero’s journey #the artist’s journey #creative #search #meaning

Tuesday, May 18, 2021

Rabindernath Tagore on How to Get Unstuck and Clean Up



Hello,

It's Sunita here.

It feels very difficult, and at times even impossible to move past situations that we are stuck in.

We find ourselves in awful places, relationships, careers, mindsets, or just about any state we can imagine. When we feel we can no longer bear the prison we are in, it’s easy to become immobile. I find myself retreating into a state of inertia. 

But instead of panicking that I’ll remain there, I have spent time understanding this space to be one of strength. It is a break from the onslaught of my frustration and anger over not being where I envision myself to be. So my ‘I am Stuck Party’ is not condemned, but is certainly curtailed, and kept brief.

Then Rabindernath Tagore’s words come flooding through me and I GET UP AND MAKE MY WAY THROUGH THE UNACCEPTABLE CONDITIONS OF MY LIFE.



I hope you will take action and rise too.

Love,

Sunita

#selfloveselfcarefirst #rabindernathtagore #poet #poetry #get up #take action #stuck #small steps #keep moving #you got this #persevere #resilience

Tuesday, May 11, 2021

Mother's Day- Once Again a Celebration of Transgenerational Strength, Resilience, and Wellness


Hello,
It's Sunita here.

It is my biggest joy and privilege to be Nina and Simrin’s mommy. I had hoped to be a mom from a very young age. So, I am very grateful that I was blessed to be one. 

Becoming the mother my daughters deserved was the biggest motivation for me to heal. I thank them for being. Because my healing from ACEs and complex childhood trauma helped my family heal. And, we continue to heal and grow.

Health, wellness, and happiness in our family no longer means trying to be perfect. Nor do we expect everything to go smoothly all the time. I have strived to teach my girls that they possess the wisdom within them to know that tough times won't stay forever, and have worked hard to give them the confidence to believe that they can weather such storms. But first, I had to find the courage to truly believe that myself. 

I shared what I believe my job as a mother is in previous blogs. Now that Nina and Simrin are stepping into their own lives as young adults, and I see how they move forward in this world, I feel even stronger about what I have previously said about what I consider to be my biggest responsibility as their mom. 



I am in awe of every woman on Mother's Day, today, and every day, for all the feminine energy, and wisdom they pass on to our children.

I wish you all a day of love.

❤️Happy Mother’s Day!!

With my admiration for you,
Sunita

#Mother's Day #Transgenerational health #wellness #daughters #selfloveselfcarefirst #self love #self care #self discovery #resilience #courage #joy #gratitude


 

Saturday, May 1, 2021

Princeton's Public Library's Local Author Day 2021: Dr. Sunita Merriman reading "Stripping: My Fight to Find Me"


Hello,
It's Sunita here.

I am very grateful to Princeton Public Library for selecting my book, "Stripping- My Fight to Find Me" as part of their 2021 Local Author Day. 

A special shout out goes to Nora Walsh, Adult Services Librarian at PPL who was instrumental in coordinating this event.

Please enjoy this reading of poems from "Stripping". I hope you will visit this virtual event and support other local authors.

Until next time,
Sunita

#poetry #princeton public library #local author day