It's Sunita here.
We often struggle with what to say to someone who has experienced the death of a loved one.A very dear friend of mine recently lost his partner of 30 years to cancer. My initial reaction to the news was a whoosh of so many emotions.
Initially they threatened to overcome my thinking brain that wanted to console him. I took a deep breath and sat down to experience my feelings with an open heart. I understood they were there to help me move forward in an authentic way.
I also knew that my reaction to his loss came with my grief for him and sadness for own my life losses.
I know how much death hurts so felt deep empathy for him.
I tried to think what would I need to hear if I was him at that time. These words came to mind.
"Please God, don't let them be the wrong words."
He kept saying the words to himself throughout the next few demanding and heartbreaking days of the wake and funeral when things threatened to take him down.
When his son felt physically overwhelmed with the intensity of his grief on losing his mom my friend shared them with him too.
These words became their mantra.
These words strengthened them.
These words gave them permission to be weak, broken and sad while remembering they are strong, majestic and amazing.
These words are now my mantra too.
Maybe I wrote them because I needed to hear them?
If you have someone who needs to hear this affirmation, I hope you will share it.
We all often forget that,
We are strong and weak
We are sad and can laugh
We are broken and majestic
We are amazing!
This Permission gives us Freedom.
Embracing the complexities of the human experience and the tough but beautiful business of being human is what thriving is all about.