My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

Hello,
I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?


I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.

Sunita

Friday, June 23, 2023

The Way Back Home From Trauma to Transcendence


Hello,

It's Sunita here.

Relationships are everything.
I can't say that a day passes without me reading, seeing or hearing something that causes me to feel that I am behind the ball in bringing my poetry, 'An Anthology, The Way Back Home' to those who may be helped by my work and insights.

But then I think of the hoped for future reader and quickly remember that trauma takes away our agency and dignity. Why would I want to add to that by pushing out TWBH before it is humbly ready to offer it's very best form to them?

I also know how important it is to actively seek people who can help me bring the best manifestation of all 4 forms (The Poetry, Process, Practice and Provisions) of TWBH to those who we aspire to serve.

So, my focus is to look hard for those collaborators.



This is not a wish list.

This is an actual list in no specific order.

And I want it all!

They care about what they do and for whom they do it.
They are supremely talented.
They are not afraid to be humble and vulnerable.
They are confident and delight in their superpowers and talents.
They are curious.
They are fun and like to have fun.
They are madly gifted and creative.
They are kind.
They are thoughtful, insightful and full.
They are generous.
They do not cut corners.
They do not worry about pleasing everyone but obsess over making it right for the important ones.
They are honest, bold and define integrity.

I want to work with you so I can become better and bring TWBH to our broken world.

TWBH- From Trauma to Transcendence.

Yes, it is possible. For you.

Moving forwards,

Sunita

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Sunday, June 18, 2023

Trauma and The Edge


Hello,

It's Sunita here.

The Edge.

The Way Back Home can be treacherous for many of us.

If you feel despair, please ask for help.

Help is available

Speak with someone today.

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish

If you feel sad and confused, call a friend or family member.

Whatever you are feeling now will pass but if you don’t seek help, it may not seem that way.

A common belief we adopt when we are depressed and anxious is that no one out there cares about us.

That’s a lie.

Another fib depression tells us is that there is no help available to us or even worse, that we are beyond help.

A sneaky lie.

Don’t believe it.

Find a soft harbor to rest in. 

Like this green wall full of leafy life. 

It stands ready to shelter you from the harshness of the concrete sidewalk that runs past it.

Look up. 

Look towards light and life. 

It’s right there waiting for you.

💚

Moving forwards,

Sunita

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