My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Friday, April 29, 2022

Our Kitchens are Temples


It's Sunita here.

Food is Medicine. We are what we eat.

So, what will you create in your kitchen this weekend?

Healing happens in many ways. Our food has the capacity to heal us when we choose it carefully and thoughtfully. 

Our kitchens are temples of joy, creativity, togetherness, harmony, delight, sensuality, hospitality, and so much more. It’s never too late to learn how to cook! If you know how to cook, teach someone else how to cook. You may change their life!

Food is Medicine.
Food is Love.


Until next time,

Moving Forwards,


 #SLSCF #self love self care first #self love #self care #love #cooking #joy #kitchen #temple #health #wellness #intimacy #cooking #we are what we eat #thriving 

Tuesday, April 26, 2022



It's Sunita here.

I was woefully unprepared for the most important love of my life.

As I ventured into the underground world of my unconscious, I encountered locked doors, secret passages, and hidden rooms.

Until my poems started to come to me, I believed I did not have the keys to the mysterious secrets that lay deep inside me.

My poetry has proven to be the lighthouse to the workings of my inner world and has guided me to my innate knowingness. My poems are my expression of the human experience.

Sometimes the words would come to me in a torrent.  Other times they would make me anxiously wait for them to reveal themselves.

But whenever they appeared, they brought me my truth.

My poems have taught me that there is no truth without honesty. 

And that honesty does not exist where there is no courage.

And that for me to be courageous, I have to turn my back on shame.

And strip… 

There is no other way to our truth. And without knowing our truth, we cannot live whole and free. It is never too late to start our journey. Take the first step by reaching out and asking for help. Help is there. But you must take the first step. After all, it's your life. 

If someone else is taking the first step towards you to help, walk towards them. Surrender to your reality and start the work of Stripping. It is a process. But it works. I know that.

I Create New Realities, and Expand Consciousness Through Poetry.

Until next time,

Moving Forwards,


Thursday, April 21, 2022

Dinner For Two


It's Sunita here.

Having both our girls on their own adventures in life, outside of our home, Tim and I have been settling into a brand new life.

I am slowly, (and not completely) letting go of my ritual of bulk food shopping and cooking for a family, and rediscovering the joy in cooking for 2. 

There is intimacy in such preparation. And a tenderness that has a private quality to it…

Last night, on the menu was fresh caught cod from Iceland., (Wegmans fish department🙌🏻) and a Greek salad.

I pan seared the fish on this cast iron skillet with a TBS of EVOO, fresh rosemary, and 3 whole cloves of garlic. Then I finished it in a pre heated oven at 375 degrees for 10 minutes.

The Greek salad had romaine lettuce, a yellow heirloom tomato, red onions, and red grape onions. The feta cheese was Israeli. The Greek dressing was home made from a recipe my friend Anna’s mom gave me in Ottawa in the 90’s. I have used it regularly and frequently since. I actually always have a good amount made and ready in my fridge and use it to dress salads, and to marinate fish, meat, and vegetables. Thank you, Mrs. A😘

Change- our ability to look at change as a positive thing that brings us opportunities to become something, and someone new, and find new joys, is an essential attribute to living well.

The transition to dinner for 2 did not come easy for me, but I’m glad I put in the work to feel all my sense of loss and the accompanying sadness on suddenly not having either one of our daughters living with us anymore. I was only then able to let go of the myth of the ‘good old days’ and usher in the ‘new good times’.

One thing however remains the same.

Tim is still my awesome sous chef, clean up crew, and happy to be my food appreciator.

Some things don’t change.
They just get better.

Until next time,
Moving forwards,

#SLSCF #selfloveselfcarefirst #selflove #selfcare #dinnerfor2 #change #adaptability #embrace change #empty nesters #fresh fish #greek salad #brain  food #intimacy #wellness #thrive #heart bliss #cooking #kitchen #togetherness

Tuesday, April 12, 2022

Why Knowing Your CRP Can Be a Gamechanger For You


It's Sunita here.

‘It isn't really known why flamingos tend to stand on one foot, but it has been hypothesized that keeping one of their feet out of the cold water helps them to conserve body heat. It also seems to be a comfortable resting position for them’. - LiveScience

CRP. Comfortable Resting Position

Finding our CRP in a world that signals productivity, activity, efficiency, and idolizes our efforts to ‘maximize our potential’ borders on being an act of defiance.

But without the time to ‘do nothing’ I argue, we ‘are nothing’. 
Just bags of atoms rushing to actualize ourselves in some misguided, haphazard, and randomly useless fashion.

Finding our CRP is not only sacred on Sunday, but every day. It is the place and space where we discover what we want our efforts to be in service of.

That is far grander, and more important than any of our work.

CRP- it’s everything!

Until next time,
Moving forward,