My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

Hello,
It’s Sunita here.

I am a poet, an author, a wife, a mother, a sleep doctor, and a childhood trauma survivor. I healed when I understood that I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my mental health and my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

I now want to challenge and inspire you to move beyond your old stories so you can embrace possibility and fulfill your potential. So, if that is where you are in your life, I invite you to come visit with me when I write. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the bottom line is always Self Love Self Care First®.

Where did SLSCF® come from? I realized that I needed to find meaning in my suffering. I kept thinking, “What did I come out of this journey with? How can I convey what I now know other than what is in my poetry? What is the simplest, most fundamental, basic understanding of human nature that I discovered? And that is where Self Love Self Care First® comes from. I discovered that If we do not love ourselves, we do not care for ourselves. The pain of our lives and the messages we receive go deep to cause us at times to not pay attention to ourselves, and at times even hate ourselves. It is a difficult journey. And these feelings and beliefs come from the deepest parts of our unconscious. Self Love Self Care First® is a journey of learning we are all on. This is The Journey. To find compassion for ourselves. To find acceptance for ourselves. To find love for ourselves.

Find your light. Because we are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside. We must move inwards- not outward to look for the light. The light is inside you.

And when you find yours, you light up the world!
I hope you will join me in a journey of discovery, wonder, growth, and a celebration of our truth.

And love…

Because what else is there to talk about?

Be well, Do well, Live well,
Warmly,
Sunita



Sunday, February 21, 2021


 Hello,

It's Sunita here.

Our ordinariness possesses an extraordinary amount of beauty! Bask in it🌹 

Resist the urge to give into society’s demands, and it’s fascination to award the title ‘beautiful’ to only those that it deems worthy. Those categories are ways to imprison a human being. If you are called beautiful because of your exceptional physical beauty, know that it is temporary, and defined through society’s lens. 

If you are successful, as measured by the templates provided by society, you may also be considered beautiful. 

The idea that we must be on a never ending quest to achieve, acquire, and improve, for purposes of feeling beautiful and accepted is a trap. I am beautiful in my ordinariness! 

I hope you find joy in that beauty as well. 

It is a divine beauty that exists in us all. It does not demand that we be better to feel beautiful. This beauty does not want us to contort ourselves to fit into a space that is not made for us. 

Wishing you an abundance of such beauty,

Love,

Sunita

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Saturday, February 13, 2021

Will you be my Valentine?


Hello,

It's Sunita here.

You are precious to me today. On Valentine's Day. But more importantly, I treasure you every day.

I love you. I adore you. I put you above all others. Most times, I only want to be with you. I can't bear to be away from you.

So, I keep you close to me, even when I am far from you. 

When I don't get enough alone time with you, I get irritable and cranky. I don't think right, and I can't see things clearly.

It has taken a lot of courage to put you first in my life because it's not conventionally considered to be the right thing to do. I wasn't taught to love you. I did not know how to listen to you. I felt so guilty taking care of you because I thought it was my job to take care of others, before I gave you any attention. I was made to feel selfish if I ever spoke out loud about my love for you.

I started to feel depressed because I missed you. When others bad mouthed you, I joined in their critical chorus, because I started to believe the awful things they told me about you. I began to only see your deficiencies and shortcomings. That made me ignore you. Eventually, I hated you. I would find ways to punish you. And I became an expert on sabotaging you if you ever dared to stick up for me.

One day I woke up and realized that I had lost my capacity to love anyone else. 

I resented taking care of others, and started to neglect myself as well. I shut down, and completely stopped listening to you. Anything you said, I ignored. I was miserable, and was making everyone around me pretty unhappy as well. 

I knew deep down that I was wrong to desert you. I felt guilty. I missed you  terribly. So, I started the long and painful journey to reconnect with you. It was hard work. I had to re-learn how to appreciate you. I had to rekindle my love affair with you. I realized that only when I loved you first could I love anyone else. When I did not care for you, I lost all my loving magic powers. 

Now I love you every day, every hour, every moment, and, every second of the day. Sometimes you annoy me. And there are innumerable occasions when you don't do what I want you to do, in the manner that I need you to do things. I've had to learn to be patient with you when you are not on your best behavior. I remind myself constantly to find compassion for you when you really mess up.

But I know that on the inside, you are simply put, divine! And I've come to finally realize that it's my privilege, and my responsibility to take good care of you, and to love you, without any stinginess or reservations. This way, not only do I feel loved and happy, but everyone around me does too. 

So, I ask you Sunita, will you be my Valentine? Because you are my forever love!

Until next time, 

Wishing you all a Happy Valentine's Day!

With my love,

Sunita

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Tuesday, February 2, 2021

Why we Must try 'Crossing Unmarked Snow' While Being Bombarded by Voices of Unimaginative Mediocrity- William Stafford Inspires!

Hello,
It's Sunita here.


“The things you do not have to say make you rich. 
Saying things you do not have to say weakens your talk. 
Hearing things you do not need to hear dulls your hearing. 
And things you know before you hear them--those are you, 
Those are why you are in the world.” 

― William Stafford, Crossing Unmarked Snow

The snowstorm that hit the northeastern shore has been a perfect time to reflect on these lyrical words of poet, William Stafford from his book, Crossing Unmarked Snow

The quality and richness of silence is where we will find our fullest, and unique voice. Our inner voice that invites us to become our best selves. It waits for us to notice it. When we do, it then guides us like a sherpa, to the deep well within that holds the wisdom to liberate us from the difficult complexities of life.

We must stop looking for what is not out there. 

As we are bombarded by so- called experts, influencers, entertainers, and practically anyone who posts their thoughts, experiences and opinions on readily available avenues, it is so easy to allow our own thoughts to be swallowed up by these voices of repetitive, unimaginative mediocrity.

Ignoring and denying what is plentiful and abundant inside us, we scroll down different platforms of social media, not only wasting our precious time, but also insulting our discerning selves as we allow the dullness of these outside voices to mute our own imaginative and powerful one.

Only when we become still, and look within us do we discover what we instinctively know about our journey. 

I hope you found such stillness during the spectacular, and powerful beauty of this snowstorm. William Stafford's words need to be read again and again, to grasp the simple but profound wisdom they bring us. They never get old.

Wishing you a safe week ahead,
Full of your unique voice!
Love,
Sunita

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