It has taken me many, many years to learn to love myself. I finally now treat myself in a way that is gentle, kind, forgiving, and with delight and a celebratory affection.
But only with practice have I been able to cultivate an unconditional regard for who I am.
Playing it safe was never my game. I have always been pushing to be, achieve, and accomplish things.
Sadly, I was pursuing all the wrong things for me. And I was doing a pretty good job of it.
I felt exhausted carrying the load of impersonating someone I did not relate to. Tthat’s how far off I was.
Eventually my soul cried out for help.
It took a tremendous amount of effort (which is ongoing) to turn the sinking Titanic that was my inner life around. For me, Davanloo’s Intensive Short Term Dynamic Therapy (D-ISTDP) was what connected me to my unconscious and helped me access my before trauma self.
On my way back from the world of despair, depression and darkness, I learnt that Self Love Self Care First is the only way I can stay true to myself, care for others, and actualize myself joyfully.
You may think- she’s all about herself.
That’s exactly the opposite of the WHY of SLSCF. More on that later.
On the contrary, with SLSCF I’ve become deeply connected to myself and to those whom I love and have produced my best work in service of others so far.
The sway, imprints, expectations and pressures from society, family, trans generational trauma, a single incident of violence/trauma, our culture, our inner conflicts, our deep need to be accepted as part of a group, our personality- and so many more complex factors contribute to us becoming someone who we are not.
This can also manipulate us to pursue dreams ‘assigned’ to us, leaving us feeling_________.
You can fill in the blanks here for yourself.
We end up not loving ourselves in the backdrop of all the shrieking voices of others that we hear. They that tell us who we ‘should’ be, how we ‘should’ act, what we ‘should’ look like, what we ‘should’ be doing for them, and a million other ways to ignore our true selves.
Self Love Self Care First is a Life Saving Practice.
Here’s to loving ourselves and the journey that gets us there.
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