My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Monday, January 29, 2024

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It's Sunita here.

Come visit  TWBH- My Blog, a space where everyone is welcome.

The Way Back Home is neither a lifestyle, nor a way of living.

TWBH-The Way Back Home is a Way of Being.

After a transformative experience of healing from attachment and complex childhood trauma, I shifted the focus of my life, and limited my career as a clinician at my Sleep Center to be able to write and develop what my poetry and insights reveal about the journey of healing. These insights come from my lived and learned experience as a survivor of trauma, a poet, a parent, a doctor who treated patients for over 30 years and a patient who underwent intensive therapy.

The significant role of our unconscious in our life is what I explore.

Accepting who we have been led to think we are, is, I believe, our biggest hurdle in knowing our true nature.

The second big obstacle to living free, and in our full glory, is caring too much about what others say about us and being bogged down by what they expect from us. That is learned behavior.

I discovered that to reclaim myself, I needed to learn how to say no. And what to say yes to.

And courageously experience unconditional love, connection, intimate relationships, sleep, art, creativity, intuition, neuroplasticity, spirituality, science, self love, self care, empathy, heart bliss, mindfulness and my deep yearning to live a joyful, self actualized life of service to others on my terms.

These are the keystones of TWBH.

Stripping- My fight to find Me was my first collection of poetry to have been published. I am currently completing an Anthology of poetry called ‘The Way Back Home’.

When I carefully studied TWBH beyond the literal meaning of the words, it revealed my unconscious to be a vibrant and active command post in my life.

I learnt healing, thriving and self actualizing is about making our unconscious a conscious force in our life.

Here’s the thing. If I can do it, under the right set of circumstances, anyone can. That’s a fact.

So, now it my mission to bring trauma, transformation, and the potential of the human spirit to transcend in one space. To that end, I have spent the past decade thinking about what made my journey from a place of unbearable suffering and despair to thriving a successful one.

How I can reverse engineer that complex process with simplicity and clarity so others can apply systemized principles in their own lives?

That work is ongoing and sharing it with others is what I have accepted as my assignment.

If you are looking to live in wellness and with mindful agency, joy, success, purpose and meaning, I hope you will join me here and be part of TWBH circle.

TWBH blog is about the process and journey of reclaiming our true selves. That may seem hard but I learnt it’s not impossible.

We are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside us.

We must move inwards, not outwards, to look for our light.

Thanks again for tuning in.

Moving forwards,


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