My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Tuesday, February 14, 2023

There is Only One Way Back Home


It's Sunita here.

There is only one way back home.

On Valentine's Day and every other day.

Moving forwards,

Until next time,


#Love #TWBH #the way back home #SLSCF #thrive #heal #mental health #wellness #life

Sunday, February 5, 2023

What Harsh Conditions Gift Us

February Snow Moon- Photo courtesy TJC


It's Sunita here.

It often takes harsh conditions for us to wake up and see our reality.

Only when cover ups are removed do the deceptions reveal themselves.

A February Snow Moon does just that.


Blunt force.
Sharp edges.
Fallen leaves.
Frozen streams.
Silent nights.
Cold air.

Wake up.

Waking up.

To the truth.

However painful it may be- it is not as painful as living a lie.

The toll of denying our reality haunts us in ways we cannot even count or know. All we know is that it doesn’t feel right.

Of course, walking towards our truth means we must take faith in one hand and risk in the other while we tread on a frozen lake, praying for the ice to hold our weight while we make our way to shore.

A February Snow Moon guides me to the other end.

Take a chance- it might guide you too!

Moving forwards,

Until next time,


#TWBH #SLSCF #snowy nights #self discovery #beauty #risk #chance #courage