My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Tuesday, September 5, 2023

Rainer Maria Rilke's Profound Insight on Those Who Are Able to Comfort Us


It's Sunita here.

We are all in this life together.

Each one of us is connected.

Along the path, at those times when we get overwhelmed with the problems of our life, we often lose sight of the fact that others are also muddling their way through life.

When offered words of comfort and hope that help us to feel better as we work through our road blocks, we may fail to remember this simple, but deep insight from Rilke,

“Do not believe that he who seeks to comfort you lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life has much difficulty and sadness and remains far behind yours. We’re it otherwise, he would never have been able to find those words.” - From Letters to a Young Poet.

Life brings us challenges. But that’s what it’s here to do. We humans have a tremendous reserve capacity to overcome adversity and have the ability to rise above those challenges and emerge better, bigger, stronger, smarter and more flexible than before.

TWBH is all about stripping away the layers that conceal the very best we can become.

That is the space when we can just be.

Hope you stay tuned.

Moving forwards,