My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Thursday, August 12, 2021

The Unknown


It's Sunita here.

The unknown.

Moving towards an unknown destination is accompanied by whatever emotion and thoughts we assign to it.

Should the unknown have to be experienced through the lens of a singular mindset, defined by a single emotion?

Curiosity. Resistance. Fear. Excitement. Elation. Wonder. Apprehension. Nervousness. Gladness…

We usually experience a mix of multiple emotions, of which we end up focusing on a few. The ones we zone into end up determining our mood, as we stand at the precipice of change.

Change is the flow of life that will not go away.
It is the only permanence in the impermanence of our existence.

Yet we resist it mightily with all we have got within us.


Because change means we have to let go of something that has become dear, or habitual to us. A person. A habit. A house. A relationship. A job. A way of living. A surrounding. A dynamic…

Our environment is dynamic. It demands us to be nimble in order to follow its flow. We are unconsciously adapting at all times. Our bodies and minds are in a flux. But we are unaware of all the efforts we make to keep moving.

Conscious Change on the other hand is hard because there is tremendous pain and grief in having to let go of what we have come to love, and rely upon, as the core, and reflection of who we are.

We forget in our mourning, that our pain and deep sense of loss can transform us into new beings. We can become wiser versions of ourselves, with the ability to choose to hold our grief within us as wisdom.

This knowing guides us as we embark upon new journeys on the open road ahead. The road that has no signs to mark our direction or destination.

In submitting to the process of change, we have the divine opportunity to grow, and move forward, as more beautiful humans. Ones who carry the past in a way that illuminates the path ahead.

Ones who are granted the grace to face the unknown with equanimity.

The unknown.

To be embraced.

With my love,


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