My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Saturday, August 14, 2021

Joseph Brodsky Weighs In On How To Deal With The Assaults On Our Mind


It's Sunita here.

I see my mind as my mansion. What is allowed in is in my control, to a large extent. Inevitably, there will be elements of the external world that will gain admittance into my mind. I have no control over that. But once those elements are in, I do have the ability to make the conscious decision to deal with them in a manner of my design.

The American Soviet poet, Joseph Brodsky offers common sense in his profound words,

.....steal or still, the echo, so you don't allow an event, however unpleasant, or momentous, to claim any more time that it took for it to occur. What our foes do derives its significance or consequence from the way you react.

Living free requires our mind to be in charge of what we take in. And how we process it. There is no day, or moment when the external is not affecting us. But our interpretation of events that occur, and the motivations and interests of others, can aggressively make a home in our mind, if we let them.

Once they are invited in by us, they begin to dictate the terms of their stay to us.

You will give up the best rooms in your mind to host us. We will be parasites that live off all your resources. We will steal every moment of your day from you. We will stretch out and rest, while we take over your ability to do things that make you whole and happy. We will party while you become miserable. We will enjoy the comforts of your mind, while you suffer from self torture. We will relish seeing you waste your time believing our lies and deceptions.

Nobel Laureate, Joseph Brodsky said it well in his essay 'Speech at The Stadium" in On Grief and Reason,

What our foes do derives its significance or consequence from the way we react.

Don't give up your time and energy to vampires. 

Keep on point with your life.

You are worth it!

Until next time,


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