My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Monday, August 30, 2021




It's Sunita here.


If we were told we are alone from the get go, how would we live?

If we were told we are going to have to fight to find out who we truly are, would we be able to bear this truth?

Only when we are faced with losing everything, or have lost everything do we get up, and fight to reclaim ourselves.

The strength we need to survive the harshness that we experience as humans does not come after we reach a certain stage where we ‘find’ the courage to do so.

It comes from the courage we build, by taking steps to fight the adversities, losses, and challenges of life as a human.

We do not move forward towards courage. We build courage by moving forward, despite feeling weak, scared, overwhelmed, and uncertain.

No one can give us that courage. We have to dig deep inside and find it within ourselves.

Only when we decide that we cannot, and will not, live in the awful state that we are in do we make the changes that  we must to get out of our pain.

That is when our true selves emerge to discover the riches of being human. Our fight takes us to places of strength, confidence, pride, wisdom, and joy.

Yes, we are alone. That is the painful truth.

We came into this world alone. And we will leave it on our own as well. But we are connected to each other, invisibly. And to the universe. That connectedness is the energy that fuels our fight.

Only we can decide to use this energy to overcome our burdens and oppressions. Living free is the prize.

When will you say, 'No More'? It's up to you to make that choice.

Until next time,


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