My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Friday, August 30, 2019

Seneca, The Shortness of Life and Your Sundown GPS

It's Sunita here.

I sat by the edge of the lake last week surrounded by the pleasant chatter of families gathered there to see the sun set. As I enjoyed the exquisite show in the sky put on by nature, I was immersed in my own thoughts of what the sundown meant to me.

The departure of the sun was ceremonious and marked the end of a day that would never be experienced by me again. I was reminded of the words of the  philosopher Seneca.

" Even if all the bright intellects who ever lived were to agree to ponder the one theme, they would never sufficiently express their surprise at this fog in the human mind.
Men do not let anyone seize their estates, and if there is any dispute about their boundaries they rush to stones and arms; but they allow others to encroach on their lives- why, they themselves even invite in those who take over their lives.
You will find no one willing to share out his money; but to how many does each of us divide up his life! People are frugal in guarding their personal property: but as soon as it comes to squandering time, they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy."

Our lives have a flow to them that is constantly being influenced by external factors. The motives, needs, desires and sense of urgency of others can become a driving force of our day.

One day leads to another and before we know it, we are at a stage of our life where we question what we accomplished. What did we spend our time on? Was it meaningful to us? Was it our deep work? Did it bring us joy? Was it just what others wanted us to do or was it driven by our passions and purpose?

How did we spend our time?

Seneca, in The Shortness of Life offers an absolute must read for anyone who is looking to create a life of meaning in today's world of distractions and illusions of urgency and importance. There is no reason for any of us to be overwhelmed by the shortness of life as the fact as Seneca succinctly articulates is that Life is long, if you know how to use it.

At sundown, I ask myself these 5 questions every day.
This practice keeps me focused on my priorities and helps me stay in my lane without veering into the millions of other lanes that are going in directions and to places that I have no interest in. They also save me from taking turns that lead me down the wrong path.

Sundown GPS.

  1. Did I invest in myself- physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually?
  2. Did I move my life plan forward in any way- big or small?
  3. Did I do for those whom I love and are responsible for?
  4. Did I give my time away to people, activities, meetings, projects and matters that play no role in my life and it's mission?
  5. Did I love?
We all have the power to choose and how we choose to spend our time determines the outcome of our life. My Sundown GPS has changed the way I look at each day and I think it can do that for you too! It is never too early to understand how short life is and we must stop waiting for a specific age or stage of our life to truly start living our truth! 

It's Today. Right Now. This Very Minute.

Wishing you a week of good use of your time,
Be well Do well Live well


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