My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

It’s Sunita here.

I am a poet, an author, a wife, a mother, a sleep doctor, and a childhood trauma survivor. I healed when I understood that I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my mental health and my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

I now want to challenge and inspire you to move beyond your old stories so you can embrace possibility and fulfill your potential. So, if that is where you are in your life, I invite you to come visit with me when I write. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the bottom line is always Self Love Self Care First®.

Where did SLSCF® come from? I realized that I needed to find meaning in my suffering. I kept thinking, “What did I come out of this journey with? How can I convey what I now know other than what is in my poetry? What is the simplest, most fundamental, basic understanding of human nature that I discovered? And that is where Self Love Self Care First® comes from. I discovered that If we do not love ourselves, we do not care for ourselves. The pain of our lives and the messages we receive go deep to cause us at times to not pay attention to ourselves, and at times even hate ourselves. It is a difficult journey. And these feelings and beliefs come from the deepest parts of our unconscious. Self Love Self Care First® is a journey of learning we are all on. This is The Journey. To find compassion for ourselves. To find acceptance for ourselves. To find love for ourselves.

Find your light. Because we are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside. We must move inwards- not outward to look for the light. The light is inside you.

And when you find yours, you light up the world!
I hope you will join me in a journey of discovery, wonder, growth, and a celebration of our truth.

And love…

Because what else is there to talk about?

Be well, Do well, Live well,

Friday, August 23, 2019

It's Okay to Take Shelter Under a Bridge on a Rainy Day

It's Sunita here.

I was driving back from visiting a friend last week when it started to rain. I slowed down a bit but otherwise, the weather had no impact on my trip. However as I drove under a bridge, I noticed a group of motorcyclists who had stopped there to avoid driving in the rain. It certainly made sense to me as I passed by. If I were driving a bike, I would not want to venture out in the pouring rain and would have done exactly what they were doing. Taking shelter under the bridge until things cleared up on the road.

So why is it so hard for us to do that when we feel blue or under the weather? Where does the belief that we must forge ahead at all costs come from? Many a times, dragging our battered selves to 'show up' is punishing ourselves for the simple crime of needing some 'under the bridge' time. Life is not a straight line and sometimes, we feel less than capable of tackling the big and small of our journey. I believe those times are hints for us to take it easy so we can regroup, recover and regain our vitality.

I now understand that the rain is only going to be for a short time and as soon as the clouds clear up, I will get on my bike and get back on the highway. While I retreat, I use that time to pamper myself with stillness, consideration and compassion. I allow the blues to stay with me as my friends for a short period of time- listening to the messages that they may bring with them. I don't judge myself for taking a short break but instead, am proud that I know when I should be taking shelter 'under the bridge'.

Self Love Self Care First is not only a practice, but an art of being able to listen deeply to ourselves and to be able to respond appropriately, effectively and in a timely fashion to what we understand our needs to be. Self love is about successfully replacing our narrative of self criticism and judgment with self congratulations on being in tune with our body and mind. And soul.

It's okay to feel the need to be cocooned and the desire to withdraw from the hustle of daily life. Actually, it is a necessity. That's why we have days when it's almost impossible to get up and go. They are signs. On those days, do what you must, but otherwise, go easy on yourself and make it a point to take shelter 'under the bridge'. I promise, you will feel invigorated and energized once you do and will continue on your journey with vigor and enthusiasm as soon as the rain stops.

Wishing you a wonderful week!
Be well Do well Live well.

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