My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Friday, August 23, 2019

It's Okay to Take Shelter Under a Bridge on a Rainy Day

It's Sunita here.

I was driving back from visiting a friend last week when it started to rain. I slowed down a bit but otherwise, the weather had no impact on my trip. However as I drove under a bridge, I noticed a group of motorcyclists who had stopped there to avoid driving in the rain. It certainly made sense to me as I passed by. If I were driving a bike, I would not want to venture out in the pouring rain and would have done exactly what they were doing. Taking shelter under the bridge until things cleared up on the road.

So why is it so hard for us to do that when we feel blue or under the weather? Where does the belief that we must forge ahead at all costs come from? Many a times, dragging our battered selves to 'show up' is punishing ourselves for the simple crime of needing some 'under the bridge' time. Life is not a straight line and sometimes, we feel less than capable of tackling the big and small of our journey. I believe those times are hints for us to take it easy so we can regroup, recover and regain our vitality.

I now understand that the rain is only going to be for a short time and as soon as the clouds clear up, I will get on my bike and get back on the highway. While I retreat, I use that time to pamper myself with stillness, consideration and compassion. I allow the blues to stay with me as my friends for a short period of time- listening to the messages that they may bring with them. I don't judge myself for taking a short break but instead, am proud that I know when I should be taking shelter 'under the bridge'.

Self Love Self Care First is not only a practice, but an art of being able to listen deeply to ourselves and to be able to respond appropriately, effectively and in a timely fashion to what we understand our needs to be. Self love is about successfully replacing our narrative of self criticism and judgment with self congratulations on being in tune with our body and mind. And soul.

It's okay to feel the need to be cocooned and the desire to withdraw from the hustle of daily life. Actually, it is a necessity. That's why we have days when it's almost impossible to get up and go. They are signs. On those days, do what you must, but otherwise, go easy on yourself and make it a point to take shelter 'under the bridge'. I promise, you will feel invigorated and energized once you do and will continue on your journey with vigor and enthusiasm as soon as the rain stops.

Wishing you a wonderful week!
Be well Do well Live well.

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