Stay Open, My HeartLook Towards Hope and Love
Our feelings can get hurt because someone else did us wrong. But, we can also hurt because we take our past experience of being hurt everywhere, and that casts shadows on our experience of others.
Our deepest and most healing relationships are with those, who can recognize when they hurt us, and, can also sincerely appreciate, without judging us, or getting angry at us, when we feel hurt by them, on occasions when they did not trespass on our heart.
These are the individuals who respond to your hurt by saying this,
“You are hurt. That makes me sad.Let’s figure out why this happened. Let me listen to your hurt heart.Let’s find a place within us, that is deeper than where we stand today.Let me listen to understand what your heart is asking for.I know there is a need in there that wants to express itself.If I was not there for you, I will learn to be there in ways I can, and you desire and need me to be.If I was present, but you still felt I was not there for you, I will try to express my presence in a way that you feel it more.Either way, we are in this together.”
Such friends or relationships take your hurt heart personally, and do not start defending themselves, justifying their actions, and listing all the things they do for you, when you express your disappointment to them. For them, your hurt is their hurt. And it goes without saying, their hurt must be your hurt. It is the reciprocity of open hearts that creates such intimate bonds, that make life worth living.
Look towards Hope and Love.