My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Sunday, October 31, 2021



It's Sunita here.


What are you working towards?
What are you frightened of
What have you put on ‘hold’ because the time isn’t right?
Worse still, what is it that you don’t even dare to dream about?

The people you look up to for accomplishing what you envy and admire are no different then you. The only difference is that they made a habit of listening to what their inner voice was telling them. And then they took action.


Despite failing. Repeatedly failing. Failure did not deter them. 

They brought into existence something that was meaningful to them. They became the person they always knew they were. They created something magnificent and concrete from just a feeling or an idea. Their obstacles did not deter them from moving forward in the realization of their dream.

Those who did not think they could pull it off were often their loved ones, who gave them ‘advice’ or ‘cautioned them’ about the odds. All well meaning on the surface, but maybe this discouragement and desire to sabotage was born in the deepest part of their unconscious?

You see, when you start to live your truth, you become a source of inspiration and example for others who yearn to do so too, but also become a painful reminder of unfulfilled living to those who have been ignoring their own inner voice. In the pain that arises from the act of discrediting and rejecting themselves, these individuals turn to you and dismantle your confidence and energy by telling you your dreams are impossible to achieve. 

They cite all kinds of research and use cautionary wisdom to deter you from dreaming as an unconscious attempt to alleviate their disappointment in themselves. 
Misery loves company and they see you as a deserter so they do all they can to keep you in that dismal place.

Your journey starts only when you believe in yourself.

To believe in yourself, you have to know yourself.

To know yourself, you have to spend time with yourself.

To spend time with yourself, you have to say no to all the distractions and time and energy wasters that suck up your day from you.

You have to accept yourself.

You have to love yourself.

Your journey starts then!

She believed she could.
So she did.

I believe I can.
So I do.

I hope you do too.❤️🌈
With my encouragement for you to go for your dreams,

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