My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Wednesday, January 26, 2022

In Thay's honor- "The Only Thing Worthy of You is Compassion"- A Reminder and "Recommendation" from Thich Nhat Hanh in These Troubled Times


It's Sunita here.

Thich Naht Hanh, at the age of 95 years transitioned onwards from his bodily journey on January 22, 2022.

As millions of others, I have been deeply touched, comforted, and lifted by Thay's writings and teachings. Whenever in turmoil and having turned to him for guidance, I have always experienced an immediate calming of my body and soul. His voice conveys the inner work he did over the duration of his entire life, and his words bring me the wisdom I search for, when lost. 

Even though I have discovered many absolute truths through my lived experiences, and by tapping into my inner voice, and intuition, I have a need to be reminded of them frequently. That's when I know I can rely on Thay's writings, poetry, discourses, and answers. They always ground me and reassure me that by staying connected to myself, all my battles will be won. 

His kindness, wisdom, and many years of practiced mindfulness led him to a state of grace so deep and illuminating, that it was impossible for me to hang on to my fears and anxiousness when I listened to him. 

One of my favorite ways of practicing the basic tenant of Self Love Self Care First is to hear Thay explain it in this video, How Do I Love Myself? His answer is a great example of how he could take immensely complex and complicated ideas and conceptualize them for us in simple ways. 

"I am a continuation, like the rain is a continuation of the cloud."
                                                  Thich Nhat Hahn 

I end by reposting my blog of June 20, 2020 in honor of Thay. 

With love, and an awareness that we are all one,

Until next time,



 We are travelling in times of great difficulty and pain. I once again, turn to poetry for comfort and guidance. Since there is so much original content out there right now by incredibly talented and compassionate people, I feel there is no need for me to add to it.

So, instead today, I share with you a poem by Thich Nhat Hanh that takes me to a place of mercy as I try to move away from anger, frustration and feelings of helplessness in the face of the gigantic problems we face in our world.


Promise me,
promise me this day,
promise now,
while the sun is overhead
exactly at the zenith,
promise me:
Even as they
strike you down
with a mountain of hatred and violence:
even as they step on you and crush you
remember brother, remember.
man is not our enemy.
The only thing worthy of you is compassion-
invincible, limitless, unconditional.
Hatred will never let you face
the beast in man.
One day, when you face this beast alone with your courage intact, your eyes kind,
(even as no one sees them),
out of your smile
will bloom a flower.
And those who love you
will behold you
across ten thousand worlds of birth and dying.
Alone again,
I will go on with bent head,
knowing that love has become eternal.
On the long, rough road
the sun and moon will continue to shine.

Wishing you a week full of invincible, limitless and unconditional compassion,

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Photograph credit- "Thay Walking" by Paul Davis

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