My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

It’s Sunita here.

I am a poet, an author, a wife, a mother, a sleep doctor, and a childhood trauma survivor. I healed when I understood that I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my mental health and my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

I now want to challenge and inspire you to move beyond your old stories so you can embrace possibility and fulfill your potential. So, if that is where you are in your life, I invite you to come visit with me when I write. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the bottom line is always Self Love Self Care First®.

Where did SLSCF® come from? I realized that I needed to find meaning in my suffering. I kept thinking, “What did I come out of this journey with? How can I convey what I now know other than what is in my poetry? What is the simplest, most fundamental, basic understanding of human nature that I discovered? And that is where Self Love Self Care First® comes from. I discovered that If we do not love ourselves, we do not care for ourselves. The pain of our lives and the messages we receive go deep to cause us at times to not pay attention to ourselves, and at times even hate ourselves. It is a difficult journey. And these feelings and beliefs come from the deepest parts of our unconscious. Self Love Self Care First® is a journey of learning we are all on. This is The Journey. To find compassion for ourselves. To find acceptance for ourselves. To find love for ourselves.

Find your light. Because we are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside. We must move inwards- not outward to look for the light. The light is inside you.

And when you find yours, you light up the world!
I hope you will join me in a journey of discovery, wonder, growth, and a celebration of our truth.

And love…

Because what else is there to talk about?

Be well, Do well, Live well,

Friday, October 19, 2018

About the Author

In addition to being a poet, Dr. Sunita Merriman is a graduate of New York University, College of Dentistry, and a Diplomate of the American Board of Dental Sleep Medicine and the American Board of Craniofacial Sleep Medicine. She is the founder of the New Jersey Dental Sleep Medicine Center in Westfield, New Jersey and for over 25 years, has been dedicated to treating her patients with the belief that their mind, body and soul are connected.

Stripping- My fight to find Me is her first collection of poetry to be published. She is currently completing her second and third books, Permission- For Me to Fall in Love and Freedom- For Me to Just Be. Like her poetry in Stripping, they too translate the language and spirit of the unconscious.

These three collections of poetry will be offered as a “A Trilogy of Love”- A Story of Healing, Reclaiming and Awakening.

Sunita credits ISTDP, Intensive Short Term Dynamic Psychotherapy for treating the damage she suffered due to attachment, childhood and complex trauma. She is indebted to Dr. Habib Davanloo, who developed ISTDP, for not only his lifelong dedication to understanding, and teaching others how the human unconscious can be successfully, and predictably accessed for therapeutic relief but also for the generosity with which he offered his thoughts and insight about her poems in “Stripping".

Sunita is actively engaged in sharing her personal and professional insights of how ACEs and mental health impacts sleep and overall wellness with her colleagues in the medical community. Her goal is to promote trauma informed, interdisciplinary, and integrative care for patients that respects the mind-body connection.

In her journey back from darkness Sunita discovered that Self Love Self Care First® is the only way for us to fully realize our potential, live joyfully and serve others. It is her intention to share this powerful, and empowering discovery with others, and start a movement of Self Love Self Care First® She is a passionate advocate of those who suffer from ACE’s and mental illness and dedicated to promoting her belief in the infinite potential of the human spirit.

Sunita has been married to her husband Tim for 25 years and they are the parents of two wonderful daughters, Nina and Simrin. She lives in New Jersey, USA but is also a proud Canadian of Panjabi (Indian) descent.

Creating new realities, and expanding consciousness through poetry. 
Highlighting our relationships, connection, and sleep as the foundation of wellness and optimal living. Passionately advocating for those who suffer from ACEs and mental illness. 
Promoting Self Love Self Care First®


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