My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Monday, September 5, 2022

Oliver Sacks Gratitude Helps Me Get Back to My Light


It's Sunita here.

'Gratitude' by Oliver Sacks.

Dr. Oliver Sacks expresses his gratitude in this book, for a life well lived.

His, was a life of unending curiosity about this universe, and all that it contains, a life spent on seeking meaning, giving back in multiple ways, understanding himself and others, and sharing his brilliance, and rich gifts, through his generous living, and of course his prolific writings.

 I read this short quote of Dr. Sacks often (but I feel, not often enough).

I read it especially when I am feeling disillusioned, blue, unfulfilled, bored, entitled, sorry for myself, stuck, unmotivated, and envious of others. I ask myself at such times,

 Am I behaving like a

Sentient being?

A thinking animal?

Am I aware of my great fortune of getting to live on this beautiful planet?

Am I paying attention to the beauty that surrounds me?

Which part of this great adventure am I rejecting right now?

What illusions and desires are making me dismiss this enormous privilege?

It’s a mind and heart opening exercise, that always starts out as being uncomfortable for me.

But when I’m honest with myself, it gets me back on track to being connected with the infinite beauty, and abundant opportunities, that lie just beyond my bubble of self- created suffering.

I realize then, that I have unique gifts to discover within me. I must get on with the fortunate business of living, and seeking beauty on this amazing planet.

And most importantly, I must work on sharing my gifts with others. That's a privilege that we all are given. It's up to us to accept it gracefully.

Until next time, 

Moving forwards,


(Photo credit: A portrait of Sacks taken by Bill Hayes titled Back Home, March 2015)

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