My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Monday, July 11, 2022

Death and Resilience


It's Sunita here.

There is a process of healthy grieving. When we experience the loss of a loved one, it is natural to feel overwhelmed with our pain and grief. But we must find ways to remind ourselves throughout the sadness that a new chapter in our life awaits us.

We must remember that fact, as we mourn the loss of a loved one, and grieve for the future with them that we believed would unfold for us. The fact is that we are all here for only a short time. We are on a solitary journey, for which we are assigned traveling companions. Everybody we are connected to is one such travelling companion. Their loss hurts, and our pain may seem insurmountable. But our light is the light that shows us the way forward. It is inside us, and awaits our attention.

I hope anyone who is grieving will focus inwards, and find the strength that lies there.

Our strength reveals itself, and grows, every time we find the courage to face reality and live our truth.

That is our journey.

When we do not deal, we do not heal!

I would suggest listening to The Science & Process of Healing from Grief | @hubermanlab Lab Podcast #74 in addition to the other sources of comfort and information that you are dialed into.

And, as always, I strongly recommend turning to professionals for help. They are trained to guide us thorough the work and complex processes of healing from grief, trauma, mental health burdens and illnesses.

A new chapter in our life awaits us.

Until next time,

Do The Work, please.

Moving forwards,


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