My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Thursday, March 24, 2022

Trauma to Transcendence?


It's Sunita here.

Trauma and Transcendence may not seem like two words that belong in the same sentence, but they do.

The human mind and heart have an enormous capacity to heal, and find their way to a path that leads to a luminous existence.

But we must do the work to get on to that path.

Once we are on that path, it further requires a different kind of work to stay true to this path towards enlightenment.

There are many distractions and traps along the way. In addition to the external factors that can easily derail our efforts to transcend, we have to deal with our inherent biology of being, which is not usually in line with our highest being.

So, what is one to do?

Go inward.

There is no other way. There is no ‘hack to transcendence’. There is no short cut. And, it is a life long process to get there, and stay there.

But, it is the ultimate, iron man/woman jam of living as a human.

The Mind-Body connection is a powerful aid to calm our inner world. Once still, we discover our true selves, the source of our unique creativity, gifts, and talents, and create meaning out of our life experiences.

Trauma is now being understood in ways that have never been understood before. This is helping scientists, medical and mental health professionals, individuals with lived experiences of trauma, policy makers, and their friends and families to consider new options of treating trauma. This will lead to easing the burden of the suffering that trauma causes, and ultimately a better society.

We are also in the midst of exciting developments in the fields of biology, neuroscience, and psychology (among other interconnected fields of study) which are uncovering the path to human transcendence.

Trauma to Transcendence?
A resounding yes!

But, you have to Do The Work.


Consider picking up Scott Barry Kaufman's book ‘Transcendence’ and checking out his work.

Until next time,


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Photo- Sunita Merriman

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