My book of poetry, "Stripping- My fight to find Me" is a story of the triumph of the human spirit. It is a story of our deep need for connection and the infinite power of love to heal.

I am energy. I am infinity. But I am also a poet, author, artist. wife, mother, sleep doctor, and attachment and complex childhood trauma survivor. I healed only when I understood I was broken, not a victim. I learnt that everything I needed was within me. And that my inner life was the essence and driving force of my existence.

Where did Self Love Self Care First® come from?

I needed to find meaning in my suffering so I kept thinking, “What truth did I come out of this journey with? How can I share what I know in forms other than what I receive through my poetry? What is the most foundational and fundamental truth about human existence that I discovered to be true in my suffering? That is where SLSCF® comes from.

I discovered that if we do not know our truth, we cannot love ourselves. The pain and suffering of our lives, the false external messages about life, success and achievement that we receive, and the projections and imposed expectations of others we are subjected to, mangle our truth, distract us from our destined path, and cut deep into our body, mind, and soul. They cause us to not pay attention to ourselves, and to how we live our lives. These feelings and beliefs descend into our unconscious and become habitual patterns that hijack our lives.

SelfLoveSelfCareFirst® is the journey of truthful self-examination and acceptance of our truth. Only when we are ready to find value, love, and compassion for our true selves do we begin to live free.

This blog is a celebration of love, stillness, growth, joy, discovery, and the truth. The conversation is honest, the topics are varied, the perspectives are from many angles, but the common thread weaving the discussions together is Self Love Self Care First®.

You are not moving towards any light. There is no light out there. It is inside you. You must move inwards- not outwards to look for it. No one can guide you there. Only you can give yourself the permission to embark on this journey. Only you can reclaim yourself.

Your freedom is in your hands.


Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Good Morning



It's Sunita here.

Good morning!

I find there are so many hacks to start the day ‘positive’. It's almost as if the day is ruined if we don't wake up cheery and ready to go on a fun fest. Must we plaster a smile on our faces and tape it there at bedtime, so we may wake up grinning?

I prefer to feel what I am truthfully feeling and let those emotions inform me of what is going on in my life. I don’t call that being negative or positive.

I call that being in touch with myself and my inner world.

We experience a bundle of emotions, and none of them are good or bad. They do make us feel good or bad- or in other words result in our experience of pleasure or pain. We don’t want pain. We want pleasure. But that’s not life. Nor is it the path towards enlightenment.

We must develop the fortitude to weather our painful times, because there is no escape from suffering. And we must gain wisdom to avoid unnecessary suffering. This resilience comes from experiencing hardship. Not from hacking our way through life by following nonsense.

Reframing our situation is a much better, and a powerful way to start our morning strong.

For instance, if you are heartbroken about a break up, illness, or death of a loved one, unemployment, or any other troubling situation, you will have to surrender to your pain. Not acknowledging and respecting your agony will lead to problems that will not go away. But after you stop to grieve and give your suffering the time and honor it deserves, you can tell yourself,

I will come back to you, my grief, but now I must get up and face the day. I have other responsibilities, and I deserve to find joy today, even as I mourn. Dear pain, I’ll be back later and give you my attention until you are done with your work with me. I promise I will not put you under the rug. Nor will I pretend you are not here. And yes, I will not laugh you away either.

Get up. Go for a walk. Go to work. Dance. Work out. Smile. Take care of your kids. Play with your pets. Do whatever you must do.

Whatever is going on in your heart, accept it. Feel it. Deal with it. Learn from it. Be strengthened by it. Then move on with the business of finding and creating joy for yourself and others.


And have a good morning!

Until next time,

With my love,


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