Hello,
It's Sunita here.
It is the start of a new year again...
We are
bombarded with headlines and blogs about making New Year Resolutions.
Photographs and posts of people sharing their new year resolutions are
plentiful on social media. Conversations usually center around the question,
“So, any new year resolutions?
I had
to cut my workout at my gym short on January 1st because it was too crowded for
me to focus. But I know that things will change by February. And then by
summer, usually it’s only the ‘regulars’ and new members who are still slogging
it out.
The
complexity to human behavior patterns is beyond the scope of my expertise and
cannot be discussed in a single note, even if it was. However, I know firsthand
that the only motivation that drives us to succeed to make healthy lasting
changes comes from within us.
No one
else can motivate us to make choices that result in us being more, doing more
and having more of what we desire. That drive is internal.
But that’s
not the secret that I am talking about...
I’m
talking about what makes us get up when we fall. Because success is not a
straight ride to the top. Ask anybody that has achieved anything meaningful,
significant or noteworthy. They will tell you stories of the many failures they
suffered through to finally get it ‘right’.
So,
what’s the secret?
It is
having infinite love for oneself.
That
drives the ambition to go beyond where we are today. Self-love is the
foundation upon which we can have the courage to say- we deserve more. It is
the place from where we say, I am strong enough to do whatever it takes to
achieve my goal. But more importantly, if I fail today, it’s okay because I
will succeed tomorrow.
Self-love
prevents us from taking a punitive direction of thoughts when things don’t go
the way we had planned.
So, you
couldn’t get to the gym today. You have 2 choices of looking at that. One is,
“Boy, what a failure I am. Can’t even keep my New Year resolution for a month.
I’m a loser”. The other is, “I’m disappointed that I couldn't work out
according to my plan. I don’t feel good about that. Let me see what happened
with my time yesterday. What can I do to make sure I stick with my exercise
program because it sure feels good when I do, and I deserve that?” Looking at
the reasons for not being able to carve the time for exercise does require
honesty, but that’s another discussion.
We must
be our biggest champions in order to succeed. The reminder to love ourselves must
always be a conscious thought . The compassion required to forgive ourselves
when we fall short is critical for us to be able to get past failures and forge
ahead with optimism.
We must
believe that we deserve to be more, do more and have more of whatever it is
that we desire.
For that,
we must love ourselves unequivocally and unconditionally.
And
that is the secret.
So why
not start 2019 with a commitment to Self Love Self Care First?
Try it.
I promise you that it works!
Be
well, Do well, Live well
Sunita
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