It's Sunita here.
"Be kind". I see this sign every day. It hangs between my writing sanctuary and my work space. I spotted it a few months ago while browsing at a store that sells cute stuff. And inspirational sayings, in all forms. Pillows, signs, wall hangings, stationary, mugs and sundries.
What does it mean to be kind. Kind is an adjective. The definition of kind is
1 a : of a sympathetic or helpful nature (was helped by a kind neighbor)
b : of a forbearing nature : Gentle (kind treatment of animals)
c : arising from or characterized by sympathy or forbearance ( a kind act)
2 : of a kind to give pleasure or relief (cooled by a kind breeze)
3 Chiefly dialectal : Affectionate, loving
Source: Merriam Webster dictionary
We are taught to be kind to others from an early age. It feels great when we are the recipient of kindness from another person. But now, looking through my lens of Self Love Self Care First, I note how I was never encouraged to be kind to myself. By anyone. Not by my parents, not by my teachers, not by my friends. I always thought of kindness as something that I was supposed to offer to others.
I am down with that. I love being kind. I feel awful about myself when I am not. But being kind has always been in relationship to others. Never has kindness been about being kind to myself.